Lack of Self

Immature love is a symptom of too little self. An emotionally immature person doesn’t feel comfortable and secure enough with him or her self to go through life without a romantic partner. He needs a romantic partner to “complete” his self. If the romantic partner pulls or grows away from him, he becomes threatened and lashes out in some way. This is what’s going on in cases of physical or verbal abuse. Physical and verbal abuse are tactics of intimidation. The person who victimizes his “loved one” with these tactics is not being “selfish.” Quite the opposite: he’s exhibiting a lack of self. - Michael J. Hurd

..... Worth contemplating.